Often times throughout the day I hear teachers saying phrases to students such as: “try your best; I know if you put your mind to it you will succeed; and take your time.” As adults, we don’t have anyone reminding us of those things. Your words and actions define who you are. As you go through your day, be the best you. As you reflect on your past, think about how you would describe yourself?
Reflecting upon my childhood, I always wanted to be the wallflower in conversations and oftentimes felt like I was privileged when I heard something that I was not supposed to. Through guidance from my parents and grandparents, I was taught to be respectful of other people and to not spread rumors. The power of listening is very valuable. By meddling in places I was not wanted often got me in trouble with my parents and sister. Adults sometimes meddle when accountability and being respectful is probably the route to go. The same can be said about gossip. Oftentimes, the person listening to conversations and then spreading gossip damages not only the person they are presumably trying to support, but themselves as well.
As adults, we need to remember to be kind and respectful. Far too often adults connive, complain and add to the dysfunction of their workplace and homes. In essence, adults sometimes behave like grown children. I am sure you have all heard that at one time or another. Adults sometimes see the need to complain and make excuses when being kind and respectful to someone oftentimes makes all the difference. Investing in others will always pay out with a better return.
With the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons upon us, I challenge each and every one of you to be who you are and to be role models for younger generations. You may be surprised to find that you have a knack for solving problems. You may find that you are great at investing in students. Or, you may find that you are more productive when you give back to your community and family.
The past month I have read a lot about Ameer Abdullah and something this young man said struck a chord with me. Ameer Abdullah said, “Be who you are all the time.” What a great life lesson. When my wife taught she had three rules for her classroom. Be Kind. Be Safe. Be Respectful. This is who she is as a person. She is kind, she provides a safe home for our kids, and she is respectful of her peers and elders. Ameer was very philosophical when he said that basically many people act and don’t act like who they really are. I challenge you to all be who you are all the time, and in doing so – be the best you!